I have 4,000,000 things to say about divorce and recovery. Has it all been said before? So what?
If you put a flame to natural gas, you'l get an explosion. Every. Single. Time. It's a law. People aren't like natural gas. Each of us reacts to a stimulus in a unique way. The result will be unique. The consequences will be unique. Guess what? Our perceptions of the event will be unique.
I work with people going through divorce. Aside from the procedures for conducting the divorce lawsuit, there are no rules. No one book will tell you whether to divorce, or how to go about it, or define the best parenting plan. or give you a sure-fire step-by-step guide to putting your life back together. Every story is unique.